3-Stage Process for Getting Your Ex Back

Breakups are no fun, not for anybody. No matter who you are, going through a breakup is painful and stressful...but even when the chips are down and it seems like life is practically meaningless anymore, don't go to pieces! You CAN get your life back together and learn how to get your ex back, and I can help you do it!

I've consolidated all of the various things involved in the reunion process into three simple-to-understand stages. Each one has a fair amount involved with it, but I'll do my best to convey the idea as completely as possible.

Stage 1 - Shut Down Contact: It may seem a little counterproductive to your main goal to cut off contact with your ex, but in the great scheme of things it's very important to start off by giving both you and your ex some time and space to breathe. At this point, any pressure is just going to drive him/her further away, and you have important things to do with your downtime.

Nine out of ten relationships end because the person leaving the other wasn't getting everything he/she needed. Sometimes that need can even be freedom from a particular nasty habit of his/her partner's, but usually it's something a little more integral. What that means for you is that if your partner left you you've got some work to do on yourself. You're responsible for your ex leaving you, so you need to sit down and figure out exactly what went wrong and more than that how to fix it. Make whatever sacrifices or compromises you deem necessary...but know that skimping on the self-work is just going to make things worse.

Stage 2 - Bring Back Contact: Usually the self-work process takes long enough that by the time it's well underway enough time has passed to make reestablishing contact with your ex acceptable. It's important not to make this contact too aggressive or threatening; a simple phone call or email seeing how your ex is doing is about as far as you should go. Whatever you do, don't start talking about getting back together yet...not unless your ex is already primed for it and brings it up him/herself.

If that went without conflict, it's probably all good to go ahead and slowly build contact back up with the odd phone call or email here and again. Don't push things too quickly, or you'll drive your ex away, but take things slowly and you'll probably end up spending some decent time together. Use the times you're with each other to passively remind your ex of how great the two of you used to fit, by doing things the both of you always enjoyed as a couple. The memories combined with the new and improved you should really soften up your ex to the idea of reuniting and possibly even make it be his/her idea.

Stage 3 - Maintaining the Reunion: Perhaps the most vital part, this comes after you've made up with your ex and are back together with him/her. Once you have your ex back, you have to keep that relationship going strong, and to do this you have to NOT fall back into your old habits. If you let the changes you made to yourself go down the tubes, all your hard work could be for nothing as your ex could leave you again...and this time not come back.

Always remember when you're using this method that it's based entirely on fixing the source of your problems and passive techniques to get your ex back. You won't get very far unless you make sure you've solved your problems outright, and aren't being too aggressive in your pursuit of your ex. If at all possible, getting back together should be your ex's idea, not yours. So keep that in mind, and make sure you don't ruin your chances with the one you love.

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