Divorce - Despair or Depression? How to Handle Your Reactions to the Divorce

So many emotions are felt after a divorce that it can feel overwhelming. One of the most frequently felt emotions is despair. Makes sense doesn't it? You have so many changes coming at you at once that it's diffiuclt to recognize all of them, let alone cope. Once the dust settles though, holding on to that despair will cause more problems than good. It's now time for spring cleaning and moving forward.

Let's focus on why these thoughts of despair don't help soothe a wounded spirit, but instead cause you to you to use poor judgement at a time when you need to be making a lot of important decisions.

You aren't able to be there emotionally for your children.

If you're in the depths of your own sadness over your own losses, that leaves little room for you to help your children adjust to their own sadness over their own losses. Your kids need you. They need to know you will be there to hold them when they cry. You may wonder if it's ok for you to cry with them? Sure it is. But you have to be able to distance yourself from your own thoughts of pain to tune into theirs.

You don't handle your daily responsibilities.

When despair lingers, it turns into that nasty little thing called depression. Most depressed people experience such things as sleep problems, irritability and a lack of desire to do anything. All of those create a recipe for disaster with daily living. You may find yourself not paying bills on time, taking off of work to lie around sleeping or crying or just vegging out watching hours and hours of TV. This is a slippery slope that's leads to a pit that's very hard to climb out of.

You can wind up in a really lousy relationship.

If the sadness causes you to seek out comfort from any source, you won't be as discerning as you might generally be, leading to a potentially unhealthy relationship. This will cause more headache and problems for you rather than comfort. You are in NO shape to be in another relationship when you're still grieving another one. Not to mention the way your kids will feel about a new "companion" when they are still reeling from the fresh divorce.

These warning signs need to be paid attention to. You need to examine closely where you are right now. Is it a good place or are you sliding down? Do you have a right to feel overwhelmed and sad? Sure you do! It's when it becomes a habit over a period of time and it begins affecting those around you that you need to take steps to move forward.

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