How to Never be Tongue-Tied on a Date

Ever been tongue-tied? It happens to every guy when talking to a woman he just meets. You go up and say hi, or get introduced, and your mind goes blank. You just stutter and say "So what do you do?" and ask boring questions, leaving her no choice but to politely excuse herself. The good news is that there are three things you can do to make sure you always have something to say and can chat up anyone.

1) Enter the "Now"

Most of the time, when you can't think of something to say, it isn't that your mind is too quiet, it's that it's too active. You're in your head rambling over irrelevant things or panicking about what's gonna happen when she gets tired of you squirming.

To get in the present moment, it's helpful to take twenty minutes out of each day and meditate. Some important books to check out are "The Power of Now" and "Stillness Speaks" (much shorter book), by Eckhart Tolle. Yoga also is extremely helpful in this area.

2) Master Free-Association

Having a good conversational vibe with a woman depends on how you can relate to both your environment and what she has just said. Your next thought is always triggered by something close by. For example, if a woman tells you about her promotion, you might think of a friend you had who got demoted over a practical joke. or, you might think about Kanye West's new CD "promotion." Both topic are legitimate branches from what she just said.

To develop skill at conversational vibing, practice free-associating. On your way to the bar or party, look at things and come up with associations. For example, if you see a truck, you might come up with "truck driver, truckers are fat, if you have a truck everyone wants you to help them move, big tires," and so on. Or maybe you'll see a bank and think "money, teller, rude teller I met yesterday, bankers always look bored," etc.

3) Keep up to date with things you find interesting.

Anytime you have passion about a topic, you can talk about it nearly endlessly. I once discovered a site that counts calories for you based on what restaurant you ate at, and I could talk about it for hours to anyone who would listen. You need to find out about things which drive your interest and make you want to share. Leave out any majorly controversial or uncomfortable topics, such as religion, politics, or violent crime.

Understand that for most topics, if it's interesting to you, it's interesting to her. I can geek out and talk about Guitar Hero for X-Box and the woman will be giggly enraptured. Any interesting health or science discoveries are fair game too. A good source of these is the non-political stories in the news magazine "The Week."

As you can see, these tips require you to work on this ahead of time, before you meet the woman you want to impress. So don't wait, start doing these now. You can enter the "now," free-associate, and read interesting things all day. This will make it very easy to have effortless conversations with women you meet. Your success awaits.

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